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Lesbian Couple Looking for DonorCity: FairfieldLesbian couple looking for a donor with excellent genetic makeup. Must be over 6 feet, nice looking, physically fit, no mental illness or diseases in family. Must have had HIV test within last 6 months with proof of negative results. Have no STD of any kind, CMV negative. Must have had great scores/grades in school. You have to be willing to sign parental rights waiver. We already have 2 beautiful boys and are looking to conceive a girl, hopefully. Serious inquires only. Syringe/cup only... Thanks guys [Posted on 24 October 2007] |
I am a 28 years old white very social/friendly lawyer. I work between Los Angeles (where I was raised) and New York. I am looking to co-parent one or more children with a female/ lesbian couple.
I have a stable income from which I can support a co-parenting arrangement financially as well as emotionally. I have a certified high IQ and pretty much a social butterfly here.
I am 6'2", light complexion, dark hair, hazel eyes, (told to be very attractive, please feel free to ask for a picture). I am seeking a friendly female/couple who wants to have her own biological children while keeping the other biological parent involved. I welcome all kinds of ideas and creative solutions.
[Posted on 20 June 2007]
I am a Japanese gay man, 38 yo, 180 cm, 76 kg, well educated, honest, good manners and reliable. I wish to donate my sperm to any woman straight or lesbian who can raise my kid. I like the idea that somewhere there is my kid who grows in different culture. You will not be obligated to do anything, since I would not be able to financially support. You only have option to let your kid to know the biological father when you wish.
[Posted on 3 June 2007]
Latin Male (European Ancestry), Fair complexion, Olive skin I am very healthy,20/20 vision, Intelligent, attractive, straight male, well educated, BS Degree, drug free, disease free, very fit, I am in top shape, I am a health nut and exercise regularly.
[Updated on 5 May 2007]
Known Donor/Co-Parent of Color WantedVegan, tomboyish bisexual woman, ethnically Jewish, spiritual not religious, politically left, down to earth and educated, seeking a responsible, progressive, communicative, healthy man of color, African-American, Latin/Caribbean or Arab/Middle Eastern, of any orientation, who wants to be a father. Looking for a good, solid, trustworthy man with whom I can build a warm connection. Gay couples welcome. Open to anything on the spectrum from known donor to co-parenting to romantic relationship. Must be supportive of child being raised vegetarian.
I lean towards Buddhism spiritually, am passionate about social justice and holistic health. Professionally, I'm the Operations Manager for a construction company. In the past, I've been a teacher, massage therapist, non-profit worker, health educator, and political activist. Born and raised in the Bronx, NY, grandchild of immigrants. Attended inner-city schools, influences were Puerto Rican and African-American. My circle has always been a rainbow.
Please contact me at coparentwanted@yahoo.com, with a photo and some info about yourself and how you envision parenting.
[Updated on 3 May 2007]
Hola:
Soy un gay de 33 años, 5'10", 175lbs, sano, nunca he usado drogas, de mentalidad abierta, estable y responsable.
Desde hace varios años es mi sueño convertirme en padre y ayudar a mi hijo o hijos en todo lo que pueda, si eres una lesbiana con buena salud y estas lista para ser Mama por favor contactame y hablemos del tema, espero escuchar pronto de ti, mi mail es bayarea-papi@hotmail.com.
[Posted on 12 March 2007]
Happy Holidays!
Are you tired of the merry go round of the surrogacy community, think you have found your perfect couple then BAM! no more contact, the relationship gets distant?
Laura from Miami is looking for a SERIOUS Traditional Surrogate from a surro friendly state. She has already been on the merry-go-round long enough. A lot of broken promises and dreams. She is looking for a TS who is:
Are you this special angel? Contact me at 321-632-7286 7 days a week - 7am - 9pm or email me at angelmatcher@bellsouth.net to set up an appointment.
We look forward to hearing from you, lets make 2007 the year that this couple will be parents.
Warmest Regards and Baby Blessings.
Laura Fretwell
[Posted on 31 December 2006]
I am a warm and caring guy, who is great with kids. I have a B.A. in Child Development and have taught meditation to 3 - 5
year olds for the past 20 years. I used to do respite care with "special needs" kids, and have a reputation of being
wonderful with infants (read: can get them to stop crying and go back to sleep!). I can offer references in that regard!!!
I am currently finishing a couple of graduate degrees in natural medicine and my life is busy but very rewarding. I currently support myself by dancing professionally ( see my website at http://www.prinzandrew.com ) and by doing healing work (therapeutic massage, homeopathy, Ayurvedic nutritional counseling, etc.).
My Past: I almost fathered a child with a lesbian couple I was friends with and I was very excited about the prospects. They were going to be the primary parents and I was going to be the uncle-dad. Sadly, they started having challenges in their relationship and we stopped the process.
I would love to befriend a caring lesbian couple (or possibly single) who want to be the primary parents of a child. I sincerely feel I would be an awesome uncle-dad (and what family doesn't need extra childcare?!).
I am 5'6" (closer to the earth) and around 138 lbs. with an athletic build (all that dancing!). I take very good care of my health (vegetarian). I am a longtime meditator, so, I'm a fairly happy-go-lucky guy. I am in my forties and am playful and energetic. I can usually wear kids down faster than they can wear me down! :o)
Feel free to contact me: drewlicious1@yahoo.com.
[Posted on 19 September 2006]
Hi! I am a 35 year old Caucasian, lesbian female, looking for a sperm donor and possibly a co-parent relationship. I am a registered nurse, graduated with honors with my BSN (GPA 3.9), and I have completed approximately 21 credits of Graduate School. I was born and raised in New Mexico, and I consider myself to be Christian. I taught myself Spanish when I was working in the Emergency Room at the age of 20, as I felt it was important to be able to communicate with the Spanish speaking-only patients. I am very mechanically inclined, and have a good sense of humor. I am German, Dutch, Norwegian, Irish, English, and Scottish, and possibly Native American, but I am not sure of the tribe. I have long brown hair, green and brown eyes, and I am 5'7", athletic build.
I am looking for a male, preferably with light hair, whether it be blond, red, or light brown, and preferably blue or green eyes, but that is not set in stone! I prefer someone that is tall (approximately 6'0" or taller), and slender, athletic, or muscular. I have seen pictures of men that are Greek, Jewish, and other races with olive skin that I thought would make beautiful babies, so race is not necessarily an issue. If you have the right look, the right genetics, good health, and a "HUGE" giving heart, then it doesn't matter your race! I want to have healthy, happy, intelligent, gifted, and good-looking children. I am looking for someone who is willing to be the father of one or more children, as I might want more than one, and prefer the children to have the same genetics/father.
I Do Not want to play games, so serious inquiries only, please! Contact me if you are interested: Triagetroll@hotmail.com.
[Posted on 19 August 2006]
I am a stable, well-adjusted 35 year old masculine gay African-American man who wants to become a father. I come from a large family and enjoy being around kids. I have helped to raise a few of my nieces and nephews and have developed a good relationship with them. Now, I would like to have that special bond with my own child/children.
I am looking for a woman (bisexual or lesbian) who really wants to be a mother, and who would be committed to co-parenting a happy child (or two, or three)! I think it is important and beneficial for a child to receive love, care, and support from two parents. I am highly educated and financially stable, so I am able to support my child/children financially as well as emotionally.
I am drug and disease free, work out 3-4 times a week, and am a conscious healthy eater "most" of the time. I am a responsible man who has a great sense of humor and believes in living life to the fullest! You want to be a mother and I want to be a father, so lets make both of our dreams come true! Ethnicity is not an issue for me, all I ask is that you are a stable, honest, loving, and caring woman who is open to all the great joy this opportunity will bring. Contact me at: chocreintx@aol.com.
[Posted on 10 July 2006]
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
A little info about me: I'm John. I'm an African American male seeking to co-parent with a gay/bi or hetero female. I'm 37 years old, 5'8", 165lbs. I'm a decent guy---clean cut, college educated, spiritual, stable, and financially secure. I'm very healthy and athletic, no STDs, never did any drugs, and a non-smoker. I've been in a long term relationship with a woman in the past though I consider myself more queer than bi.
I live in south Florida but distance and location are not really important to me. My family roots are based in Europe and the Caribbean. I have traveled all over and have much appreciation for cultural diversity so race and ethnicity are irrelevant. I am socially conservative, but definitely not so politically. Professionally, I'm a critical cardiac care nurse, currently pursuing graduate studies in Anesthesia.
I'm looking for a female from mid 20s to early 30s who's interested in both of us being actively involved in raising our child. Surrogacy doesn't appeal to me because Id rather spend the money on the kid than on agencies and attorneys. I would want our child to have both a mother and a father in his/her life and I'm willing to be very flexible to make this co-parenting arrangement work. I'm fine with AI and am more than willing to pay the costs.
E-mail: demedja@comcast.net
[Posted on 12 May 2006]
I am an attractive, healthy, intelligent, 32 year old teacher and graduate student. I am currently studying for a graduate degree in counseling in order to become a child and family therapist. I live in a fairly large house in a quiet, pretty, and safe neighborhood. I am ready in all aspects to start a family. I have been planning to start a family for years.
Initially, a close friend was going to be the donor for my child/ren. However, he has had some health problems recently and needed to focus on his own family and rebuilding his health. Because of my age and other practical considerations, this is the best time for me to start a family and I don't think it makes sense to wait much longer. Therefore, I am considering the other possible options... what I can most easily envision is:
(1) A donor situation where the donor is willing to be known and will be happy and satisfied with updates about the child and perhaps some limited contact throughout the years, depending on what is agreed upon initially. The specifics of the agreement would naturally depend on how comfortable I am with the donor and compatibility between us. I would not be open to any changes in the agreement whatsoever after the child is born.
(2) A mutual situation where I am a gestational surrogate for a male couple and they are donors for me. I have my own health insurance and no reason to believe I couldn't carry several children in a healthy, safe way. My family has tended to have several children.
I don't think that I would be a good, ongoing "co-parent" with someone that I don't already know very well, as I would probably not be very happy negotiating day-to-day decisions like school, schedules, rules, behavior, and spirituality. Therefore, it would definitely work best if the donor either did not want to be the "parent" but rather more of a role model or "uncle" to the child/ren OR was similar enough to myself in values/belief system to allow for an agreed upon level of contact with me as the primary parent, making all decisions for the child in every aspect, and definitely the child/ren living with me as the primary and only "residence".
I think one of the worst possible scenarios would be a legal custody battle that ends with the child "split in half" and going back and forth between parents like a ping pong ball. It would also be awful to be forced to allow visitation if there were some reason that it did not feel safe or in the child's best interest to me. And, quite simply put, it would be awful to have an agreement that feels comfortable and then find that later the other person is determined to violate it in ways that impact on raising the child/ren and the family structure. For these reasons, I would require the donor to relinquish his parental rights in order to be certain that the custody arrangements are not based on such awful scenarios.
I have watched friends of mine dealing with divorce where- in trying to be "fair" about custody- their children have been shared 50/50 and don't seem to ever know where "home" is. Also, as a teacher, I have several students who have no idea who is picking them up that day or where they will be sleeping that night. I simply can't view that as healthy and in the best interest of the children and it is just not what I want.
I can most easily imagine helping an older male couple who wants to have child/ren (option #2) or a donor (option #1) who simply wants to know that they helped to bring a child into the world and perhaps to know about them through updates and occasional visits throughout the years. I would not work with an anonymous donor who does not wish to have their identity known to the child as they grow up. I think it's important to be able to provide honest answers to questions a child may have about how they came to be in the world!
The surrogate option is probably best for those who really, most honestly, want to have constant, ongoing involvement with the child or to be the "equal custody" or primary parent. As a gestational surrogate, I would like to be known to the child as the person who carried them as an infant and I would involve the couple as much as possible in all aspects of the pregnancy, except of course the most physically private aspects! I think it's really important to have all the information through birth and that there really is bonding to be done during pregnancy- that you don't have to be the one carrying the child to be able to bond with them. (Research shows that fathers can bond with their child while the mother is pregnant.) So, I would want to facilitate that for everyone's best interest, especially the child's.
I would also like to have more than one child, preferably three. But, I realize that two is probably more realistic due to my age, especially if I am a surrogate. Another thing that is extremely important to me is that the person who donates for me is not endlessly providing his sperm to the world at random. I certainly understand that someone may start their own family in the future - or may even already have children - and I appreciate that I would benefit from their generosity. But, I am not comfortable with the idea that my child/ren would have endless, random siblings that they would never know about.
Therefore, if the donor is going to continue being a donor or already has a long history of fathering children, I would not be comfortable. If the donor has not already donated a multitude of times but plans to continue in the future, there could possibly be an agreement that all siblings could know about each other, including contact information for the future in case it is desired/necessary. I have adopted friends who wonder at times if the friend they really connect so much with is actually their sister or if the guy they are falling in love with is actually their brother, etc. Naturally, I would completely want to avoid those potential thoughts and scenarios... and, I think it's just realistic that other children would be biological, half-siblings whether or not they have ever had any contact.
On a superficial level, the characteristics that I prefer (not required-just preferred) are: blue/green/grey eyes, intelligent, average to above average height, well educated, spiritually aware, and relatively successful in life. I am also open to Indian ethnicity, though I am Caucasian. I have some relatives in Canada and I would, in several ways, prefer to conceive with those residing outside of the United States (preferably Canada or Europe), although that is not a "requirement".
If you feel that you can help me bring a much loved child (or two or three) into the world or that I might be a good choice for helping you, please respond to lists333@aol.com (preferably with photo) soon! Also - if you are reading this ad, then I am still looking!
[Updated on 21 March 2006]
My name is Chris and my partner of 12 years, Jason, and I want to fulfill our dreams of starting a family. We both want to be parents more than anything in the world. Living in Florida, adoption is not an option for us. We considered relocating, however we believe it is important for our child to be near their grandparents and other family members who are all located in Florida. We have spent the past year researching surrogate options and are ready to move forward. A family member has agreed to donate an egg, and Jason will be the biological father.
We are seeking a gestational carrier to bring our baby into the world. We are open to most options and terms for the right match. We are seeking a gestational surrogate that is willing to carry the baby to term for a negotiable rate. We would also consider being a sperm donor for a lesbian couple that would also assist us by agreeing to become a surrogate.
Below are few things about us that we thought may help you get to know us:
Location: Lake Mary, Florida. We built our dream home in 2004. It is a 3 bedroom, 2 ½ bath, 3,200 square foot home near great schools, city parks, bike trails, and shopping. We live in a great family oriented neighborhood. Our house is located in the cul-de-sac, where it is not uncommon to see parents and their children enjoying a game of soccer in the evening.
Profession: I am a software Project Manager. Jason is a Senior Software Trainer and Technical Writer. We are financially secure and maintain a good balance between our home life and career goals. Jason and I both have been with our current employer for several years and intend to stay with our employer long-term. We both work less than 5 mins from our house, which makes it a quick commute home in the evenings.
Education: I hold a Masters Degree in Business Administration. Jason has two years of college. Education is important to us both and we hope to encourage our children to embraces education.
Hobbies: We both enjoy the outdoors. We like to go camping with friends and family. We enjoy swimming, bike riding, walking, rollerblading, and I run 3 to 4 times a week. In addition, we both enjoy traveling, reading, and watching movies.
Sincerely,
Chris and Jason
[Posted on 4 February 2006]
We are a happy, healthy, and secure lesbian couple with a 4 year old daughter looking to expand our family. We are looking for a donor who is willing to consider having at least two children with us. The donor is able to participate to the level he is comfortable or not at all. We do not expect financial support or compensation and are only willing to use AI. The donor need not live in the Las Vegas or Nevada area. Thank you for considering helping us expand our family.
Tracee and Jennifer
Traceemommy@yahoo.com
[Posted on 30 December 2005]
I am 32, intelligent, spiritual (not religious), attractive, single gay black female, successful creative professional, fit, non-smoker, into healthy lifestyle who loves and adores children and very much wants to be a mother. I am already a godmother to 3 wonderful young children, have many children in my life, and am hoping to realize this dream of becoming a mother to a child of my own while I am still relatively young. At this time I reside in New York and am seeking a known father in my pursuit of becoming a mother.
Although I would like to be the primary custodian, I would like the known father to feel free to have a role in the child's life, to be a part our lives, and be available to have a more involved relationship with the child as the child grows and perhaps yearn for a greater connection. I prefer not to use the term "donor" as it does not quite capture the unique and special arrangement that this connection in parenting could bring.
In a known father I am seeking a person who has similar and also complimentary qualities to my own: warm-hearted, kind, compassionate, strong sense of integrity, active, intelligent, healthy with no history of addiction or drug abuse, non-smoker, positive, and preferably has not fathered many other children or has not donated at large. I am open to men who are straight, gay, bi-sexual, coupled, single of any race or ethnicity.
I would like to meet in person and prefer to have some foundation of trust and friendship before talking seriously.
If you are interested in speaking further, please feel free to email me at: greatlittlespirit@yahoo.com.
[Posted on 26 September 2005]
I am an open-minded, friendly, easy-going, intelligent, attractive, middle-aged man willing to be a known donor or preferably a co-parent. I'm a highly educated young man, in excellent health, non-smoker and non-drinker. I have a child but I love children. I am available for donation to a lady of any marital status seeking a donor, or a co-parent or willing to be a traditional surrogate.
I don't have a physical description for the perfect co-parent(s), but am looking for shared practices and beliefs in parenting and strong communication skills. The woman should be good-hearted, caring, non-smoker, healthy and drug free. I would not pay financial compensation as I don't have much but I would be interested in meeting and discussing things over coffee including some financial support relating to the child(ren) birth and upbringing. If you are interested or have any questions, please feel free to email me. My e-mail is: Simnud@yahoo.ca.
[Posted on 4 July 2005]
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